How To Be Happy

How To Be Happy

I found out earlier this week that a family member that we see probably a total of 5 days a year came to visit us last year for 2 days and then told someone else behind my back that we don’t seem very happy. I was assured it wasn’t some assessment of our true happiness, but more of an assessment of the things we do and don’t have and an errant conclusion as a result that we must be unhappy – because of the things we don’t have.

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I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me. It really did. But given some time to think about it, I went from being upset about something someone who clearly sees happiness as something you attain with the gathering of stuff, status, size to being grateful for her – because even in her unkindness, she reminded me to think about it – to make sure that I am grateful for what I have, that I am happy with where and what my life is right now.

The timing could not have been better as we approach this day of Thanks Giving. I am more conscious than ever of making sure I look around me each day and appreciate what I have and think less about what I don’t. I will embrace the morning hugs, the legos strewn about, the dishes in the sink, the clothes on the floor. For all those things mean that right now we have each other, we have fun, we have food, and we have comfort. We have far more than we need.

Happy Thanksgiving, Friends!

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  1. GREAT post! Cherish was you have, rather than focus on what you dont. Isn’t that what it’s all about?

    Happy Thanksgiving!

  2. Huzzah!

  3. What a terrible thing for somebody to say. Who knows what is in the hearts of another person. While at a craft show a couple of weeks ago I saw another saying that you might like. “Get rich quick. Count your blessings.”

  4. I love the ‘Get Rich Quick, Count Your Blessings’ saying too!
    You know you are happy and you are thankful for all that you have in your life. You are one very blessed lady and no one can take that from you. Having said that, I totally understand about being upset about the comment and I love how you reacted to it now…being grateful for her to remind you that you don’t need all those things that she does to be happy.

    I love, love, love this quote and I don’t know how much it pertains to your post, but it just helps to put things in perspective sometimes.
    “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
    Abraham Lincoln

    Happy Thanksgiving Emily!

    Emily Reply:

    I love that, too! Thanks Lis!!

  5. I feel your pain! Many people in my life can’t seem to wrap their mind around the idea that we are happier with less. My brother, in particular, refuses to understand why I don’t want a high-stress, but high-paying, job.

    Of course, I’ve learned, as you have, that the only person who is accountable for my decisions is me. So I make the ones that make sense to me, and let other people think what they will.

    Emily Reply:

    yeah, we’ve heard that one before about the high stress high paying jobs too. I just wish we could all let each other live the way we choose for ourselves and just get along without judgement.

  6. Amen, Emily! You know the real key to happiness. Unfortunately, your relative does not. I imagine she is not a very happy person. Happy Thanksgiving.

  7. I really like the first quote especially, thanks for that reminder.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

  8. Gregorio C. Raborar says:

    It seems our minds have been trained to acquire more things we don’t have to make us happy that we forgot those that we have acquired before and are still with us. Happy thanksgiving and I like the quotation

    Greg (philippines)

  9. I’ve found it really crazy how different people can have totally different assessments of people… and then go on to state their perspectives to others as fact.

    That sort of stuff bother me too, and it wish it didn’t.

    Emily Reply:

    Yeah, the stating it as fact thing is irksome. As if their truth is *the* truth. Live and let live.

  10. I heart where you’re coming from, Emily. (Those were just words to go in one ear and out again.) However, your words:

    “The timing could not have been better as we approach this day of Thanks Giving. I am more conscious than ever of making sure I look around me each day and appreciate what I have and think less about what I don’t. I will embrace the morning hugs, the legos strewn about, the dishes in the sink, the clothes on the floor. For all those things mean that right now we have each other, we have fun, we have food, and we have comfort. We have far more than we need.”

    Beautifully said.

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours, because you understand the meaning of the word “Happy”.

  11. I too have been disheartened by relatives comments and attitudes to our smaller home – thanks for teh encouragement to stay clear about what makes us truly happy (love and poeple – not things!) and to not focus on what we dont have. especially with Christmas coming and all the temptation to gaze longingly at gorgeous things that are outside the budget! :) its good to have a reminder of how blessed we really are. Really enjoy your blog thank you for sharing your thoughts and inspiration from your life, I actually cant imagine how someone could come away from your lovely home thinking that!
    Best,
    Lottie

    Emily Reply:

    Thank you, Lottie. It is really hard this time of year. I am seriously considering an all handmade and small business Christmas this year. Post coming soon on that :)

  12. how quick some of us can be to judge … in my mind her judgement says volumes more about her than it will have say about you … happiness abounds – best le xox

  13. Well said. I think it is a sign of growth when we learn that things that used to hurt us can’t/don’t hurt us anymore because we’re living our own truth.

    Emily Reply:

    living our own truth – love that!

  14. Sometimes when I hear things like that (I have heard them too!) it just makes me all the more happier to live with less and less! Because I feel like it is even more validation that true happiness comes from the less is more philosophy-and truly happy people know that, and don’t live their life otherwise-always having to chase after things to get that feeling. Happy Thanks Giving to you!

    Emily Reply:

    Yes, you are right. After having many days now to think about it, I have realized that it is validation about the life we’ve chosen and love. Happy thanksgiving, Sarah!

  15. Beautifully said! How’s that saying I’ve seen floating around on Pinterest go … there are some people who are so poor, all they have is money.

    Shame, it doesn’t get them any closer to true happiness. I’d love it if you linked this post up to my celebration of gratitude happening over on my blog this week :) I imagined there would be many more willing participants and I would really love to spread the love as far as it will go.

    Emily Reply:

    I *love* that quote!!

    I saw your post in my reader yesterday and knew that was right up your alley. I’ll be sure to pop over and share.

  16. Just reading your post… beautifully written!!

  17. So true…having less stuff is making our lives much more full!

  18. Very well said. Money will never buy happiness to us. If money can buy happiness then poor never get happy and richer always be happy but that is not true. Smile can give you happiness. spiritual things can give you happiness. There are many things in this world that can give you real happiness what we all searching for.