I am a woman who loves space. I need space and I love to give others space. I am not a hoverer and I don’t like to be hovered. I feel like I can’t be myself, think, or be productive unless I have room around me. I don’t need a big room, I don’t need a lot of space, but I need the space I am in to feel light, airy, open, freeing. When I am with my kids, I enjoy sitting back and watching them play and explore and learn instead of following a step behind, keeping them from really being able to explore and learn and be free. When I am with my husband, I try to give him space too. I don’t think it’s possible for me or those around me to truly be themselves and find their own way if I am tagging a step behind or worse yet, trying to hold them back.
I am trying to be more purposeful with my time and space. I know I crave the space to be able to relax and slow down. I know I feel better when I am giving those around me space as well. I am learning that this is why I like things put away, for everything to have it’s own space. By creating space for me, my loved ones, our things, I am making it easier for us all to have room to breathe. To slow down. To just be.
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I’m new here and already we have something in common. Space… an area that has been in my focus recently as well. Space in my home. Space in my schedule. Space in my thinking.
Space, slowing, being… striving for more of it myself!
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I’ve been trying to figure out recently if I need more space or less clutter. Sometimes I have a hard time distinguishing between the two. I suppose I could always do with less clutter!
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I found this post very interesting because I’m the same way. I always say that one of the reasons I married my husband was because he was the first man who gave me my space and respected my need for it (and doesn’t take it personally).
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I agree, I need space as well. As an introvert I have a need to have some alone time every day. I also have a quite large personal space area (this is often invaded). I’m not sure that it’s actual space I need, but the lack of distractions and things (noise, TV, etc).
I love that you like to give your kids space. I see so many parents constantly hovering over their children trying to shelter them and protect them, I feel bad that the kids don’t get to fully experience life because of their parents fear.
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Oh my – I could use a good lesson in giving my kids the space they need to explore. I’m a micromanaging mom – I’m desperately trying to stop orchestrating their every move. Thanks for this post!
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Oh, I know how you feel. I need my space too, and I give my kids lots of space as well. Unfortunately, *they* don’t understand this at all, and half the time I sit down to watch they both decide to climb all over me. Sigh.
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Oh, I am so the same way! I need space to stretch my thoughts with no eyes on me. I think this is also important for kids. They have so few spaces in life that aren’t proscribed within someone else’s expectations. My husband doesn’t seem to need as much space as me, but I try to give it to him anyway.
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Yes, space is important- I agree. My adult children now thank me for the “space” I gave them. and talk about space but is it just me, I have a hard time when I’m standing writing a check at the check out counter and the next person in line is so close they know what I had for breakfast- I don’t understand that. I always smile and say I’m almost done, they usually back up a little. :}
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I agree with a need for personal space and space let ourselves and others grow. You expressed this need so beautifully. Have a wonderful weekend!
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These are great thoughts Emily! With our kids, it is easy to want to take over and control their every move. Afterall, we don’t want to let them get hurt, make a mistake or miss something! Yet it is fascinating to let them go at their own pace, make discoveries and figure things out. In that process they become more confident! And yes, with our spouses too!
Thanks for your comments today!
blessings,
melissa
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I LOVE my own space! I like my painting studio to create!
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I’ve never thought about space in the terms of relaxing and taking one’s time as you described. Thank you for that insight. When asked what I collect I like to answer, “Empty Space”. I’ve been de-cluttering for the last 6 weeks and it feels like a rebirth.
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