One of the hugest favors I have done for myself since becoming a stay-at-home mom has been to remove the guilt from the “housekeeping” part of my job. I am a mom who takes my job of child raising just about as seriously as I do my job of keeping my home. I consider myself very fortunate to be able to be home with my children day to day. Some big sacrifices have been made to put me here. Instead of seeing the work that needs to be done as a burden, by seeing it as something to be thankful for, I have found an appreciation, respect and responsibility for my home. To me, it’s not just enough to have both children alive at the end of the day.
Removing The Guilt From Homemaking
We’ve all heard it before: Do what you love and love what you do. I know that what I do at home each day with my kids and for my family is a job, sometimes a thankless one and one that can be stressful, tiring and overwhelming. A shift in perspective makes it one that is full of love, laughter, and priceless moments, albeit moments between loads of laundry. It’s a small price, I think.
My home is not a chore – Plain and simple, taking care of my home and yard are parts of being a homemaker. I can either see them as burdens or blessings. Taking them on as burdens decreases my productivity and makes my days less fun. No, I don’t enjoy scrubbing toilets, but I do enjoy being home with my children each and every day. And for that, an hour a week on my knees in the bathroom isn’t a big deal, if I see it for what it really is. Something that needs to be done and will get done more quickly if I simply see it as part of making my home comfortable for everyone.
Taking pride in a home – There are two parts to this. I take pride in a tidy, comfortable home for those of us that live here and those that visit. I have done my best to simplify and streamline my home so that more time is spent with my kids than is spent cleaning. My hubby gets weekends to spend all day with his wife and kids. I take pride in not having him spend those days doing things I could have done all week. I take pride in a home that can be tidied and cleaned in an hour. The job has to get done, but I can control how long it takes by taking small steps each day. On the other hand, I take pride in my home feeling lived-in and welcoming. There are scratches on the furniture and even a few crayon marks. Toys get strewn about. We’re all human afterall. But I try not to use my children as an excuse for me not taking care of my home.
Make it a game – so many of the things that need to be done around the house can be things that get done with the help of my kids rather than in place of spending time with them. Even my 18 month old knows how to grab a towel and wash a window. Whether it is folding laundry, swiffering floors or making beds, the work can be made easier and much more fun by making it a game for everyone.
Set an example – I can’t think of a better way to teach my kids respect and appreciation for what they have than to show them that it’s important to take care of those things. I believe that a respect for what we do have can immediately be shown by how it’s cared for.