Comments on: Not Deprived http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/ simple is beautiful Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:48:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: MOMOFTHREE http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-19170 MOMOFTHREE Fri, 18 Feb 2011 20:38:15 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-19170 Dear Alison, I totally agree with you and know where you are coming from. I DO deprive my children and it IS out of necessity and sometimes saying "NO" is really, really hard. I have to make choices to go without so my CHILDREN won't. Like you, I wish I could be frugal by CHOICE not out of necessity. There is a BIG difference. I hope you and I get there soon! Good Luck to you! Dear Alison,
I totally agree with you and know where you are coming from. I DO deprive my children and it IS out of necessity and sometimes saying “NO” is really, really hard. I have to make choices to go without so my CHILDREN won’t. Like you, I wish I could be frugal by CHOICE not out of necessity. There is a BIG difference. I hope you and I get there soon! Good Luck to you!

]]> By: Live Frugal, but Stop to Smell the Roses | Frugal Dad http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-6408 Live Frugal, but Stop to Smell the Roses | Frugal Dad Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:44:43 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-6408 [...] For my twentieth birthday, more than ten years ago now, my grandfather wrote me a letter that I saved and have referred back to on many occasions in the decade since. There were many nuggets of wisdom contained, but one that stuck with me is his advice to “Enjoy life - stop and smell the roses.” Perhaps my grandfather sensed early on that I would be a go-getter, to the detriment of my family and personal relationships. Maybe he knew that I would work sixty hours a week in my first job to try (in vain) to advance. The early career burnout I felt after six years at this pace, and his words, combined to have a profound effect on who I am today. I no longer maintain such an aggressive schedule, and put family ahead of any career pursuits. I also used this advice to loosen up a bit when I felt myself becoming deprived by our frugal lifestyle. [...] [...] For my twentieth birthday, more than ten years ago now, my grandfather wrote me a letter that I saved and have referred back to on many occasions in the decade since. There were many nuggets of wisdom contained, but one that stuck with me is his advice to “Enjoy life – stop and smell the roses.” Perhaps my grandfather sensed early on that I would be a go-getter, to the detriment of my family and personal relationships. Maybe he knew that I would work sixty hours a week in my first job to try (in vain) to advance. The early career burnout I felt after six years at this pace, and his words, combined to have a profound effect on who I am today. I no longer maintain such an aggressive schedule, and put family ahead of any career pursuits. I also used this advice to loosen up a bit when I felt myself becoming deprived by our frugal lifestyle. [...]

]]> By: Marci http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1983 Marci Tue, 10 Jun 2008 18:55:38 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1983 Your last two paragraphs said it all! Nice writing! I want to pass things/these ideas along to my grandkids now - it's already been passed along to my kids - by example. They are quietly soaking it up :) Your last two paragraphs said it all!
Nice writing!

I want to pass things/these ideas along to my grandkids now – it’s already been passed along to my kids – by example. They are quietly soaking it up :)

]]> By: squawkfox » Gardens, Carnivals, and Deer Oh My! http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1957 squawkfox » Gardens, Carnivals, and Deer Oh My! Sun, 08 Jun 2008 05:15:20 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1957 [...] from Remodeling This Life is Not Deprived by living a frugal life. Emily has everything she wants and needs and writes honestly in this [...] [...] from Remodeling This Life is Not Deprived by living a frugal life. Emily has everything she wants and needs and writes honestly in this [...]

]]> By: Deprived? Not us - Smart Spending http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1942 Deprived? Not us - Smart Spending Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:13:35 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1942 [...] her life is pretty good. "I am not deprived of anything that I want or need," she wrote in a blog essay. "Through prioritizing and giving meaning to each and every dollar we spend, we accumulate less, [...] [...] her life is pretty good. “I am not deprived of anything that I want or need,” she wrote in a blog essay. “Through prioritizing and giving meaning to each and every dollar we spend, we accumulate less, [...]

]]> By: Festival Of Frugality http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1869 Festival Of Frugality Thu, 29 May 2008 22:10:56 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1869 [...] To Be Expensive from Living The Cheap Life Why Recession Is Good For Us from Northern Cheapskate. Not Deprived from Remodeling This Life I Don’t Wanna Work from Just Shoot Me Now George Bush Offers to [...] [...] To Be Expensive from Living The Cheap Life Why Recession Is Good For Us from Northern Cheapskate. Not Deprived from Remodeling This Life I Don’t Wanna Work from Just Shoot Me Now George Bush Offers to [...]

]]> By: Emily http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1763 Emily Tue, 20 May 2008 12:52:01 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1763 @Alison - you bring up a very good point - frugality out of necessity vs. choice. Yes, there are certainly things like vacations and more frivilous stuff that are fun to add into life and it can get discouraging thinking of the restraints we have based on there just not being enough money whether we want to do something or not. I also look forward to the days when it's not as much of a necessity to be frugal but more of a choice but until then, I try to just think about all the things we do have and all the experiences we share as a family instead of what we don't. And I know you do that too. Thanks for sharing some additional food for thought! @Alison – you bring up a very good point – frugality out of necessity vs. choice. Yes, there are certainly things like vacations and more frivilous stuff that are fun to add into life and it can get discouraging thinking of the restraints we have based on there just not being enough money whether we want to do something or not. I also look forward to the days when it’s not as much of a necessity to be frugal but more of a choice but until then, I try to just think about all the things we do have and all the experiences we share as a family instead of what we don’t. And I know you do that too. Thanks for sharing some additional food for thought!

]]> By: Alison http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1762 Alison Tue, 20 May 2008 12:45:10 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1762 I honestly have to say that sometimes I do feel deprived. But I think that's a result of being frugal moreso out of necessity as opposed to choice. Because currently, in some aspects of my life, I'm frugal because there's not enough money to not be. Though it's really not frivolous things that I feel I'm depriving myself of. More family vacations is what first comes to my mind. I do imagine that when we reach a point financially when being frugal isn't such a need anymore that we will still live a very similar lifestyle and those feelings of deprivation won't be there anymore. At that point, my choices will be based on my desire to live a more simple and frugal life and not on our money situation, and I think that will make a big difference. I honestly have to say that sometimes I do feel deprived. But I think that’s a result of being frugal moreso out of necessity as opposed to choice. Because currently, in some aspects of my life, I’m frugal because there’s not enough money to not be. Though it’s really not frivolous things that I feel I’m depriving myself of. More family vacations is what first comes to my mind. I do imagine that when we reach a point financially when being frugal isn’t such a need anymore that we will still live a very similar lifestyle and those feelings of deprivation won’t be there anymore. At that point, my choices will be based on my desire to live a more simple and frugal life and not on our money situation, and I think that will make a big difference.

]]> By: Darla http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1752 Darla Mon, 19 May 2008 19:19:06 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1752 AWESOME! Preachin to the choir again are we? LOL!!! ;) AWESOME! Preachin to the choir again are we? LOL!!! ;)

]]> By: Mom @ Wide Open Wallet http://www.remodelingthislife.com/2008/05/19/frugality-and-simplicity-dont-equal-deprivation/comment-page-1/#comment-1751 Mom @ Wide Open Wallet Mon, 19 May 2008 18:54:35 +0000 http://www.remodelingthislife.com/?p=314#comment-1751 You go girl!! Great post. You go girl!! Great post.

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