Confessions of an Underbuyer
That’s me. An underbuyer. Here is my convoluted link to what this means. Mrs. Micah guest posted on PaidTwice about the topic a while back and I have had it on my brain since.
I underbuy. It is probably the largest factor of my spending that keeps me from being as frugal as possible. I know it extends from my desire not to accumulate stuff. I am a living in the moment, here and now kinda girl. If I could grocery shop everyday for the stuff I needed just for that day, I probably would. But that would be silly. I have two kids and a hubby who like food in the fridge and stuff on our pantry shelves.
When I go shopping for something, I want the least expensive one on the shelf. I don’t care if the bigger bulk item is cheaper per oz. I don’t stock up on groceries, I don’t stock up on shoes, clothes, anything for that matter when I find a deal and know I’ll use said item. Even when I go diaper shopping. Diapers is just one of those things that when you have a kid and choose to use disposables, it is necessary to buy diapers and really, it’s not like I have to worry about not needing the 88 in the case, right? But still. I go and I want the pack that costs $9.99. Not the huge case for $21. I am weird, I know.
I *have* to get out of the mindset that frugal means spending less. I have to get used to going with the deal even if I can’t see far enough into the future for when that 12th pack of diaper wipes will get used.
Hubby on the other hand is an overbuyer. He buys stuff on sale and stocks stocks stocks up. I suppose we balance each other out.
I am this way because when I spend even a few dollars I always have an idea in my head of spending less now so I have more for later. I know it doesn’t always make sense, but I’d rather have more money in the bank today than a cupboard full of canned goods. I find myself much more willing to spend more on bigger purchases. I like finding deals, sure. But I also would rather pay for quality items that are a bit more expensive when a need arises. By scrimping on the everyday stuff, in my head I feel like I am saving money, even though I may not be. Especially when it comes to everyday necessities.
So there you have how my brain works when it comes to spending money. I always want to have more in the bank today just in case something comes up rather than stocking up on stuff I can’t or won’t be using right away. I am sure it’s all a part of my living in the moment, cheery, happy go lucky personality. But I am working on it. Because when I really think about it, I know it saves money to stock up when something is on sale and I know that it makes sense to buy things that we regularly need in bulk.
Sometimes the underbuyer in me wins though and I am not as frugal as I should be.















We could form “Underbuyer’s Anonymous!”
It’s so strange how brains can be wired to be so “frugal” that we out-frugal ourselves. Have you considered my idea of giving myself permission for a few items? Maybe you could give yourself permission to buy diapers in bulk. And perhaps one other item.
I am guilty of falling into both categories at one time or another. It is so hard for me to find that place in the middle. For some strange reason, in my head I can justify stocking up on great deals or being super frugal and not spending a dime. Right now I can tell I am super frugal mode because when I talk about all the ways we can be more frugal he makes a funny face
I should’ve clarified that diapers is the one thing that I force myself to buy in bulk even though it goes against my mindset. But I really have to force myself. That and hot chocolate mix! I buy that in bulk too!
You know what? You need to come live by me where the grocery stores keep putting Honey Nut Cheerios on sale for close to $1 a box, that’ll cure you
I really used to be the same way. I’m not sure what snapped me out of it, but once I did snap out of it and start stocking up on food, I saw how even if I spent a little extra one month, I really would see a difference in how much I spent on food in later months.
Hot Chocolate has always been something I’ve bought in bulk too, I was so cranky this winter when I couldn’t find a big box of it, but then I did find one at Costco, I’m happy now.
Well, having more money in the bank sounds good to me, so you seem to be on a good wicket.
Regards